You Are Who You…

… spend the most time with. Do you buy that?

In my keynote entitled The Dirty Little Secret of Business, we talk about the importance of relationships. During the keynote I ask people in the audience: “How much does it matter who you spend time with? Why?”

Overwhelmingly the responses are that we are significantly impacted by the people we are surrounded by. Speaker and author Allan Holender says it this way: “You are the mean of the five people you spend the most time with.”

As you look around your office, this might scare you. 🙂

This principle goes beyond just the workplace or even adults. A study released earlier this month found that kids with overweight friends tend to be overweight as well.

In the keynote I challenge people to be more intentional with whom they surround themselves. You may not be able to select the members of your team, but you do have control over who you go to lunch with, what podcasts you listen to, which books you read, and who you hang out with socially.

We talk about the importance of diversity in relationships and finding people who make you better, not tear you down… who take your further, not hold you back… who you can help as well as they can help you.

Andy Stanley says, “What and who you listen to will determine what you do.” Even if this isn’t completely true in every situation, I’m convinced from my own experience (as well as from coaching hundreds of executives), that much of your success will come down to who your greatest influencers are. And you are most influenced by those you spend the most time with.

Take a look around.

P.S. If you would like more information about our Dirty Little Secret of Business keynote, contact me for details. It’s a perfect session for company or department meetings, offsite meetings, and conferences.